Founding my business included a lot of desperation and hard work. Neither do or did I have the social support that was and is necessary to endure tough times. A lot of people recommend working together. I would love to work with other people on an equal footing. But I found people to not be willing to join. People are eager to become employed but they are not eager to be responsible for the company's decisions aswell. And this is what I want, I want someone to help me in tough times and enjoy the good times. By giving emotional support and - what is more - business advice being rooted in experience. Sure, I could – theoretically – get a mentor to help me, but he will pretty sure not be willing to give emotional support when going through tough times. I would like to tell someone what my idea(and already running website) is about and I want him or her to tell me what I could do in times of crisis, when I myself don't have any ideas on how to continue. I'm willing to give him or her a fair share of the company's income.
I heard that to get other people to work with you on eye level you have to enthuse them with your concept. I noticed frequently that me being excited about something does not make anyone else being excited about it. When I was much younger, about 12 years old, I was able to make other people be excited about things. But when I grew older, I am 31 now, even the most awesome things didn't seem to bother anyone anymore.
Given this background here comes my question:
Is there a certain description for a person who delivers emotional support as well as brings in competence? Where do I find him or her? PS: to make this perfectly clear, I'm not looking for someone who takes orders and expects a salary at the end of day. I'm looking for someone who tries to understand my (internet) business, wants the best for my business and me(!) and gives suggestions based on that which he or her is able to justify to me.
Actually there is. As surprising as it may sound, it is called CEO. In my opinion the CEO's role is to create an environment where everyone feels safe and productive. Where everyone does what he or she does the best without having to think about the existential risks the company may face.
Entrepreneurs and CEOs can share the responsibilities of running the company if both are willing to do a little extra work. An entrepreneur must be willing to take some direction, and a CEO has to offer ideas and corrective advice for an entrepreneur who may be both fragile and headstrong.Read more: http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/174620#ixzz2XsMLCeGD
There seems to be multiple needs here:
In my opinion, the two can (and many times should) be separated.
When making a specific business decision - I'd rather have someone be direct and able to call my baby ugly and explain why vs caring about my emotional reaction. Empathetic yes. Sugarcoated, no.
I'm not saying that emotional support isn't necessary, but that it should be applied within the right context.
For emotional support, many have followed this path:
Sharing common experiences can be better than punching a pillow or playing the latest xbox shooter - but it also runs the risk that others are "drinking the same kool aid " and lack an objective view.
That's where external validation comes in. Some options are:
It would be nice to have an effective private advisory service for tech startup founders that wasn't dilutive or cost prohibitive - but I haven't seen one yet.
I'm coming late to the party on this one.
But I have found that there is rarely a peer for the Entrepreneur. I've found that few people are willing to be their own anchor. Fewer still to weather the storms that come.
I've worked with some very competent people. The common trait among all, weak and strong, they profess never ending "brother-hood" when times are good, and they go running, crying, and accusing when things get tuff. The most competent people I've worked with (those I thought would stay tuff in the clutch), broke down and became negative. Many more pushed for a certain course and took [email protected] responsibility for it.
If you can see a vision through, do all the dirty and artistic things, even accepting set backs, then you are a very rare breed. Don't expect co-workers or spouses to understand. You're asking too much.
You will only know you have found that rare "brother-in-arms" when he/she has faced severe adversity and kept their positive energy around it.
I'm still on the look