How can I get my friends and family to support my startup aspirations?


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I have a well paying job, kids, wife, and a mortgage. However, I got an idea that is not big, not hard, totally doable. I'm interested in the start up as a hobby but see it as potentially a long term viable business venture. Yes, I know most start ups "fail." But that's open to interpretation. What does it mean to fail? (i.e. failure to move beyond the idea?) hmm. With that said, I'm looking at a total blank slate with nothing more than token technical skills, above average business intuition, and a wife that will remind me everything is great as it is right now.

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asked Apr 15 '12 at 15:17
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Forgottenkahz
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  • "not big, not hard, totally doable". I have a feeling many people think that about an idea ("hey, how hard could it be?")...until they actually try to create the product. I know I've done it and it's *unbelievable* the disparity between one's initial appraisal and the 1,000 year slog that you might actually go through to see it through to success. – Chelonian 9 years ago
  • You changed your question from "How can I get my wife to support my startup?" to "How can I get my friends and family to support my startup?". That small change completely changes the question. – Zuly Gonzalez 9 years ago

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Firstly you should be talking to her and not a random startup community about this. She probably knows best about what will get her onboard.

Also, you can always start it as a side project and only go "all in" if it passes a certain level of success. This takes the paying job and mortgage out of the equation and just requires your wife to be supportive with the time you are spending on it.

As for "most startups fail", I really find that such a ridiculous statement, likewise the statistics like 1 in 10 fail. How many startups are attempted by people that can't commit the appropriate time or money? How many are attempted by people with no technical skills? I would be much more interested to see "1 in 2 startups fail when you have appropriate time, capital and expertise for the venture you are attempting". I don't believe it's a lottery, do the right things and you have a very good chance of success.

answered Apr 15 '12 at 18:12
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Joel Friedlaender
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Obviously the first thing you have to do is talk to your wife about it. She's the only one that can truly tell you.

Three things to consider:

  • Communication: Be very open and generous with your details with her. Tell her what you are doing, what's going well, and where things are going wrong (or not as expected). If you keep her in the dark, she's got nothing to go on, and will likely assume the worst.
  • Ownership: I find that it's easier to support something when you feel like you have some ownership over it. "It's my project, therefore I want it to succeed because it is a reflection on me." So, what about bringing her in as your startup partner? You don't mention what her time commitment looks like. Does she also have a full-time job? A part-time job? Is she a stay at home mom? Also, what are her skills? Maybe she can't help you program, but could she help you with testing, or marketing, etc.? If she has some free time, and the skills and desire, it may be worthwhile to bring her in to help you.
  • Time commitment: You'll definitely want to start this as a part-time thing in your free time. Don't quit your full-time job until you've proven your startup has potential. (It sounds like this is the route you plan on taking.) In addition to that, don't spend all of your free time on the startup, and leave her to care for the kids all by herself. Make sure you participate in some quality family time.

Lastly, take a look at these related threads:

answered Apr 16 '12 at 02:54
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Zuly Gonzalez
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You starting a business represents a great risk to you and your wife. If you have a comfortable life as it is, why should she want to risk giving that up?
Most people (fairly) don't want to take on that risk - that's why most people are employees and not entrepreneurs.

Your wife should be happy with your decision if she understands how it benefits both of you - if it's something that you need to do, and if you can be committed to the project in a way that doesn't cost your livelihood, she should be able to accept that easily.

However, if your commitment to the startup includes a significant risk that you would have to downsize your lifestyle in the medium-term, that may obviously be unattractive. There are other, related risks - if there's a risk you'll have to spend 100 hours a week working on your own business (or, on a combination of your existing job and your business) to ensure any level of success, that will impact significantly on your family life.

Your wife might have some valid concerns - you'll have to talk to her clearly about your plans, convince her that it will be a worthwhile investment (for you, and her too!), and be willing to accept her point of view.

Good luck!

answered Apr 16 '12 at 00:48
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Ronald
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