Advice for running dating site


I'm running a nice dating site with overall good results so far (4 months in, about 4,000 members, 60,000 page view per day), I was wondering if someone with experience in dating/social sites could help me out with some issues i've been having :

1 - Some ideas how to keep current users interested ? I devote most of the time to acquiring users, and assume once they've singed up they don't need any more "nudging". Is this correct ? what can I do to ensure that once people signup that they stay and come back again and again ?

2 - What are the most important metrics that I should be looking at ?

3 - What is a good male/female ratio to aim for ? (I have it about 60/40). I have different advertising campaigns for each and I can turn either "tap" on or off.

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asked Oct 28 '10 at 23:12
Sherif Buzz
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Hiya, I worked for WhiteLabelDating, so have a bit of experience, but take my views with the usual grain of salt.

1 - The dating industry is an interesting one. While nominally you are helping people find the person they will be with for the rest of their life... this doesn't help you for repeat sales... it also doesn't really match the usual reality.

So, for keeping people coming back there are a number of possibilities.
Firstly, if you provided a great matching service... people will come back eventually anyway. After all, the majority of people won't find their perfect match the first time... and while it may take a few months, people will often end up as a single again several times over.

Secondly - and a little more on the dodgier side of dating - you could position yourself in a niche in which people err "turn over" a lot more quickly. Such niches can be highly lucrative - if less moral. "" or "sugar daddy" are "good" examples of this genre.

Thirdly - you can build a community by providing other features that people will come back to see... I'm not sure exactly what these could be... but WLD had forums and other community-building online features. You could think of things like setting up meetup groups so that nearby singles don't just hook up and leave, but become friends with other singles, and stay a part of the community.

2 - For you or for your customers?
For you: cashflow. Followed by conversion-rates. Followed by signups. Followed by hits. ? :)

For your customers: being happy... setup a feedback page and ask them.

3 - You have a awesome male/female ratio. Don't worry about it too much.
50/50 is optimal, of course, because everybody wants to have as many options as possible... but 60/40 isn't too bad. For some of the sites I've seen, a 90/10 ratio was a good day, and most of them were skewed far more than yours.

answered Oct 31 '10 at 08:05
Taryn East
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  • Thanks a million, you are a goldmine :) I am already operating in an ethnic niche, and yes I'm beginning to realize the fact that everybody on the site is a serial dater is NOT a bad thing. I've been hungry for success stories, but drama and quickie breakups is what's keeping them coming back. – Sherif Buzz 13 years ago
  • Hi Sherif... if you like the answer - you should probably choose it as the selected answer :) – Taryn East 13 years ago


1 - I would monitor it. Do you have a "last signed-in" date in your database? Get some metrics around how long people have been signed up and still using the site. You can also use this to send emails to people saying "You haven't visited the site in a while. 200 (fe)males have joined in your area since your last visit!".

3 - The more females the better. My experience with dating sites is that the females drive it. Men usually spend more money, but if there are no women to find on the site, they won't spend money.

answered Oct 29 '10 at 00:57
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  • Thank you. Yes I have all the data, I log absolutely everything. The 'wake up' email is a good idea, i will put that in for sure. – Sherif Buzz 13 years ago
  • The female ratio would be important for a straight dating site. If you have had such success try creating more sites with niches, Jewish, gay, black, asian, handicapped, hiv positive, cougar, sugardaddy, fetish, open relationships, Big People, weed smokers, etc. Finding a niche in the dating business is what allows you to stand out from the big players such as chemistry, match and eharmony. I know the biggest issue with dating sites is having paid subscribers, the challenge is that if your site works, your subscriber leaves. Make sure you have a good subsriber retention plan in place. – Frank 13 years ago
  • Thank you. My site is not generic, it's an ethnic niche site, but I'm finding there are even sub-niches in it that might need separate sites later on. – Sherif Buzz 13 years ago

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