What are some simple methods to remember peoples names while networking?


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I want to get better at remembering names while networking. Are there any simple methods to remember all of those names during networking events?

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asked Dec 2 '09 at 04:29
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Jarie Bolander
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  • I share your pain. This is not really a solution to your problem, but you should stop saying "I am horrible at remembering names," that just sets you up to continue the same way. I have the same problem as you, but it has gotten better (since I stopped telling myself I was bad at it). There are some really good suggestions in the answers already, try all of those things. – Gabriel Magana 9 years ago
  • Good point on not being negative. I will change to something like. I want to improve remembering names – Jarie Bolander 9 years ago

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good question :-)

I used to have a job where I had to remember peoples names (an outdoor instructor). Some cunning techniques:

  • Associate the new person with someone you know..then looking at the new person say internally to yourself their name, and visually think of the person you know
  • use an adjective... eg Dangerous Dave.. or in a networking environement... perhaps.. Smelly Susan... Bald Bill... Well Dressed Willly???
answered Dec 2 '09 at 04:38
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Dave Mateer
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  • Those are both really good. I used the first one the other day on someone I would see at the gym. I finally got his name right. – Jarie Bolander 9 years ago
  • +1 for using a nemonic with a new name. This has been really helpful for me over the years. Google 'nemonic' and you'll certainly find other ideas that'll help with remembering people's names. – Keith De Long 9 years ago
  • The first technique is the only one that has ever worked for me. – Mike Schoeffler 9 years ago

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The trick that works best for me is simply to repeat the name to the person as soon as I hear it. It sounds like this:

Them: "Hi, I'm Fred"
Me: "Hi, Fred, my name is Mike - nice to meet you."

By saying the person's name even once, it drastically improves my ability to remember the name.

To improve my chances even more, I try to use the person's name in my conversation with them. It sounds like this:

Me: "So, Fred, how did you find out about this event?", or "Hey Fred, I'm going to the bar - would you like something?"

answered Dec 2 '09 at 06:20
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Michael Trafton
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  • Repeating the name, as HectorSosaJr mentioned as well, and the writing down an adjective on a business card seems like a good combination. I think it has to be several different methods so that the chances are better for retention. – Jarie Bolander 9 years ago

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All I can think of is asking for their business card!

answered Dec 2 '09 at 04:39
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Olivier Lalonde
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  • Getting business cards is a good idea. I think I will try and write down nzscott's adjective on the card. – Jarie Bolander 9 years ago

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I'm reading Harry Lorayne's "Ageless Memory" right now because I'm sick and tired of exactly this problem. Lorayne is the memory expert, and since I'm 52 I appreciate the larger text used in this book. So far, I've just tried the first few techniques - they work! (and if you're in you're 20's and snicker, well, these techniques should work on your not yet fully developed brains as well.) Whack! [sound of cane hitting side of monitor.]

answered Dec 5 '09 at 04:31
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Bob Walsh
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The only thing that has worked for me is to mentally repeat the name at least 5 to 10 times immediately after I'm introduced. Then do it again, every time I see that person's face, until I can recall their name without much trouble.

When pressed for time or in events, I make sure that I carry a little notebook, write down the name and something about them that is unique. Then before going to bed, open the notebook and read the entries several times in a row.

This will help to fill your short-term memory, and prep your long term memory for permanent storage.

answered Dec 2 '09 at 04:38
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Hector Sosa Jr
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"I am horrible at remembering names," that just sets you up to continue the same way. - I strongly agree with this sentiment.

For me, associating someone's name with someone else I already know works well. When I hear the name, I picture someone else I know with the same name. If I don't know someone with that name, I repeat the name several times in my mind and associate the person's face with their name. Sometimes I can classify people quickly because I have a group of faces in my mind with the same name.

This tactic has worked very well for me. At times, I can remember the person who served me lunch at local restaurants days after they helped me. Turn it into a game. Tell yourself you want to master this. No one is born with the ability to remember names... they just make the effort and try harder. People appreciate being remembered.

If you're going to a network event that is monthly or something, I'd recommend writing down all the names on a notepad/cell phone after the event. If you try the first tactic and associate people with someone else, simply reading through the list of names next time you come to the event will help you remember who is who (specific details usually not needed, at least, for me). You'll be able to read a name and picture that person, or at least be able to recognize when you see them.

If you come across meeting someone for the second time but can't remember their name, put the blame on yourself. "I'm sorry, your name has slipped my mind, mine was Matthew." Smile, laugh, have fun with it. Crack a joke and put the blame on yourself. Often, the other person hasn't remembered your name either, so it's ok.

answered Dec 2 '09 at 05:41
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Matt
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They say the best (only?) way to remember is to say the person's name out loud 3 times early in your conversation so when you meet someone immediately say, "nice to meet you, Shawn" rather than "nice to meet you." It's a very hold sales tactic and works.

Another hack - look at the person closely in the face and associate it with someone else you know with the same exact name. Visualize that person. Then when you see this person again it should bring up a visual memory association of the other person.

Good luck!

answered Dec 4 '09 at 15:29
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Mark Suster
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  • I have tried the visualization trick before but only when a feature really struck me. Good idea. – Jarie Bolander 9 years ago

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Extending what nzscott has recommended, I remember I read something similar. Try to associate the name of the person with some of the peculiarities of the person's face. A point to specifically note is that, the association has to be really really weird. IF you make an association that's logical, you won't remember the name. It MUST be illogical, crazy.

To remember Jarie Bolander, one can probably go like this:
hmm... this person is 'Jarry' with a ball-under, which leads to a picture of a jar being kept on a ball. Ain't it funny and crazy, and illogical to put a jar on a ball? Now in your current picture, imagine your scarf to be a ball and your face as the Jar. I can instantly recollect your picture (even in the middle of my sleep) when someone would utter the name 'Jarie Bolander'

This trick is based on the fact that we tend to remember the things that are weird. Just introspect, you'll realize that you'd remember most of crazy/weird things that have happened to/around you. But we don't necessarily remember the things that have taken a logical course.
The memories of the weird incident also last longer than anything that's logical.

This problem of remembering names gets worse when you are not acquainted with the names. e.g. if you are used to only American names and you have to remember a Russian or Persian or Indian name (which are usually tongue twisters and lengthy), you'd have more difficulty doing so. (where pronouncing the name correctly itself is a major problem).

An important aspect that would play a key role is not just the person, but the surroundings when you meet that particular person. Remembering text/words is way less effective than a picture. So put the name and the person in some pictorial perspective, include the surroundings in the picture that you 'ctrl+s' in your mind. It works!

answered Mar 9 '10 at 22:29
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Sandeep Satavlekar
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